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All or Nothing Thinking

9/10/2021

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All or Nothing Thought Distortion Also Known as Black and White Thinking


Understanding this cognitive distortion is usually fairly simple to comprehend. 
We all know someone that is rigid in their thinking. 
It's their way or the highway. 
If you don't know someone like that - it may be that you are that someone. 
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Life is not black and white there are beautiful shades of gray


​This thinking error manifests negatively in relationships because it interferes with our ability to empathize. 
While there is always objective truth, somethings are subjective to our preferences. 
It is in those moments that we should strive to see things from another's perspective, especially if we are working to improve our interpersonal relationships. 
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You've heard it said that there is more than one way to crack an egg. 
For me, there is only one way to do it and that's by tapping it on the side of the pan or bowl,
At the same time I can understand that someone else may prefer to crack it on a flat surface or use their hands. 
To each their own. 
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How boring would it be if we were all the same?


​Next time you catch yourself telling someone how something should or must be done; 
first ask if they would like your suggestion. 
For example:
"The towels have to be folded this way or the dishwasher must be loaded that way."

Instead, try asking if they would like for you to show them a way that you have learned to fold towels or if they would like to see how you have discovered by putting the bowls on the top rack, there leaves so much more room. 
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​It's these minor hangups that can cause unnecessary and avoidable friction in our home lives.
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Can you think of any examples in your own living situation?
What about at work?
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Specifically, work tasks have structure and there is a way that whoever is in charge likes things done. 
Next time your idea for how to complete a task conflicts with the way the boss likes it try first to ask if you may suggest an alternative solution. 
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Getting in the habit of asking prior to giving advice can help others to be open to hearing what you have to say.

And remember, all or nothing thinking really just equates to whether or not you can be accepting of other's opinions or preferences. 
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Today's Challenge:

Answer this question - Can I be accepting of someone else's thoughts and/or opinions or am I so arrogant in my thinking that I know without a doubt my way is always the best way?
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